ellicepark:

hebrews3-12to13:

Okay I’ll read it

LOL. It wasn’t indirect communication Isaac. I feel like we’re just fine.

I just felt like Suh Joon Woo had some interesting things to say. & it’s pretty powerful.

It reminds me of some things I said or thought in like.. 03, 04, 05, 06, 07. 

But I guess. I don’t know. It’s kind of funny to see such a strong response…. if anotherbboy got that link from me, or if he just happened to see it from someone else’s website right after I posted it, I don’t know but .. it was really funny to read his response.

Yeah, just like anotherbboy said.. I felt like there’s a point in SJW’s post that’s kind of sexist. Actually legit sexist. Pass off your daughter to another man, and until then, just sit still? So… where is her voice? How exactly does… she have a voice if she doesn’t call any shots except to refuse someone that her father presents to her? But… even in that case, if the authority is all in his hands.. what does that leave her with? Is the relationship negotiated between some chump and her dad? Or is the relationship between her and that chump? If the relationship is between her and that chump, why would she just sit still and wait to be pursued —and not just any individual “her” but I mean “her” as the genderized “her” which is the entire female populace. If the relationship is just between her and that chump, when would they begin to understand how to trust each other and communicate with one another? I mean honestly, if some chump—if I was some chump, and I approached a girl’s father to ask if I could be with her… I think I would have a really hard time to see the girl as an equal, one to communicate with, one to share with, one to be vulnerable with, etc. Why? Because I had to speak with someone else who had to speak for her. Maybe that’s just me. But I prefer that people speak for themselves; people representing others is just a game. A game of masquerade. 

Idk. But aside from that. SJW does say some legitimate things. If you look at societal and tribal culture. If you look at family structures. If you look at family politics. If you look at gender politics. If you look at psychology and early development. If you look at sin and how even little ones are not sin-less and if you look at yourself through an honest lens and think of the first time you lied, and why you chose to lie, or do something that was a lying gesture…. then yeah. Dating carefully so that you don’t bring your own sin as a legacy for the family structure.. is very important. 

I don’t feel like posting this anymore. -_- 

I guess basically. SJW wrote some interesting things. But I have to wonder if he’s ever dated, or if he’s dated and simply been BURNED. Because… I chose not to date. And I knew that the bridge was coming, when I turned 18 and would be able to date (because of the commitment I made and kept’s rules. No dating til 18.) I knew that when that bridge came, huge rough transitions would occur between my idealism and the reality of how courtship actually can happen, the reality of the dating game, and the reality of human nature with variations in personalities. 

Isaac I guess I’m writing this to you but not really to you AT ALL. I don’t feel like you have to read it, and it wasn’t some kind of a hint for you to read it. & for anyone who’s following my blog or stumbles on it, SJW’s ideas don’t represent mine. I think that’s all I’m trying to convey by explaining all this crap. 

 LOL, okay :)